Harmful language such as “strong,” “mature,” “resilient,” “independent,” and more are part of why signs of distress continue to be overlooked among Black girls and women.

These are not compliments. This is complicit bias. It’s society saying, “I see you struggling, but I will not help because I am impressed by your ability to survive it.” This language has become a justification for providing less support, offering less protection, and expecting Black girls to carry what was never theirs to begin with. Falling apart should not be a prerequisite to care. She’s Mentally Well is a suicide prevention program created by Black Girls Smile to help Black girls, parents and caregivers understand, recognize, and respond to moments of crisis and struggle—learn the signs. Know what to do. Know where to turn. Link in bio.